Society's Take On Infidelity

Why is it acceptable that men cheat? People even say that it's "normal", that it's part of a relationship. When did it become a given—an established fact?  If a man does it, he's a player, but when a woman does it, she's a dirty slut. An irresponsible wife/mom/human being. She's treated like trash, the lowest of the low, and she'll live with the shame the rest of her life, no matter how much she's repented for it. Men, on the other hand, get to have bragging rights. How seriously messed up is that?

 

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When men cheat, it is the women's responsibility to "forgive and forget" and give a second chance. In fact, it seems as if we’re REQUIRED to do so. If we don’t, we’re heartless, or worse, we get told that if we can't forgive, then we’re not worth it. Like, seriously? We deserve getting cheated on, because we can’t forgive cheating? 

It’s very rarely that a man forgives the woman or try to win her back. If she sleeps with someone else, it’s automatic eviction from the Big Brother house. We can’t blame the man, either, coz if he takes the girl back, other men would diss him for being weak, a pushover, for not satisfying his woman enough that she had to  look for it from another man. Ego is everything for most men, and they can just as easily find a replacement anyway, so why bother playing the martyr, right?

Why do men get a free pass, but women gets prosecuted for it? Cheating is cheating, no matter which gender does it. #whatswrongwithsociety

Random Musings: Blog Naming

Don’t you just hate it when you come up with a smart, unique blog name and when you type it on a search engine to know if the URL’s available, you find out that it’s already in use? 

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Like, seriously, is your imagination that underdeveloped that what you thought to be original, someone’s already thought of earlier?

And worse, you find out that the blog only has 1-2 posts in it! Dude, you’re wasting this catchy blog URL! L

On Infidelity and My Fear of Commitment: Why I Cancelled My Own Wedding

Why do people cheat?

This seems like one of those questions that people ask themselves at least once in their life—whether they were the ones who did the cheating, the ones who’d been cheated on, or ‘just because’. In fact, the issue of infidelity is such a surefire way of rousing emotions in the general public, especially on women, that a lot of books, movies, and TV shows have incorporated the concept in their plots. (‘Two Wives’, ‘No Other Woman’, ‘The Legal Wife’, anyone?)

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So, really, why do people do it?

Pet Peeve #1: Inconsiderate Use of Phone’s Speaker

Yesterday, I went to the dentist to have my braces adjusted. In the past I always made sure to visit in the morning but I had to go somewhere, and I couldn’t put it off til Monday because I would be quite busy, so I decided to fit it in on a Sunday afternoon. I called the clinic first to find out what time it closes and I was informed by the receptionist/dental assistant that it’s until 5:30PM. I requested to be scheduled for 4PM but she said they no longer accept over-the-phone appointment reservations for that day because there were a lot of patients and only two dentists. She assured me, though, that I could still be accommodated as long as I was willing to wait so I agreed and off I went to Quezon Ave.

I arrived at the clinic five minutes before 4PM and there were, indeed, many patients on queue. I was second to the last on the patient list so I found a seat near the door and tried to read a Sherlock ebook on my phone. However, I couldn’t concentrate because there was this very familiar music that’s filling the air even louder than The Buzz being shown on the TV screen in the reception area.  It was the music from the android game, Pou, specifically from the mini-game Jump Cliff.  I remember it quite clearly because Patrick’s cousin used to borrow my phone just to play that game and I always told him to put the phone on silent because the music, catchy as it is, can be very annoying when you hear it over and over again. Here, let me share the agony:

I have to admit, the music is fun. But try to listen to that for over an hour, over and over again, on full volume. It overpowered even the noise of a room-full of people, the sound from the TV, and the whirring of the AC and the dental equipment.

I remember another instance when a similar behavior bothered me. It was when I went to a job interview a few months ago. The recruitment lobby had a very serene ambience that compelled people to maintain silence or at least speak in hushed voices when they must do so. There was a flat-screen TV playing Hansel and Gretel but the sound was too low it was pretty much just there as gray noise. Then in came a guy who's obviously applying for tech support: casual attire of jeans and huge, branded hoodie - check; huge headphones - check; real maangas swag - check. This guy proceeds to wait in one corner of the lobby and listened to blaring music which I could still hear faintly three feet away from him through his headphones. Worse, he was tapping his feet along with the music on the tiled floor! That time I didn't bother controlling myself and told him to quit the tapping because it's distracting. I did it with as much control and courtesy as I could, though, so he stopped and even apologized. Peace restored. :)

I guess what I'm trying to point out here is that people should always be mindful of the things they do, no matter how petty it may seem. The littlest things such as music on loud speaker can be distracting to others and the same goes with phone calls. As a rule, NEVER PUT ANYTHING ON SPEAKER IN PUBLIC. Not everyone enjoys the music you listen to no matter how awesome it is, and certainly, nobody gives a rat's ass whomever you're talking to. Phone calls are meant to be private; keep it that way.